Safesex Guide for Teenagers / Young Adults
Hi, I'm Richard (but you can call me Dick) and I'm part of the Safesex Company. I'm here to answer some of the questions that you might not have wanted to ask your parents or teachers about sex. I'm not going to tell you how to do it, because I'm sure you've already found that out, without my help. The thing I'm interested in is making sure that everyone knows how to avoid unplanned pregnancy and STI's (sexually transmitted infections).
In fact, I'm not suggesting you should start yet, anyway, because sex is something special to be shared between two people who have known each other long enough to know that the time is right and are old enough to cope if everything suddenly falls apart.
But, for when you do decide the time is right, or if you're one of those that won't wait just because Mum, Dad, your teacher or little old me said so, here are some FACTS that could save you becoming a mum or a dad too soon, or catching or spreading some of the unpleasant diseases that you could pick up.
First, let me tell you three big lies about sex.
1. My boyfriend/girlfriend says you can't get pregnant the first time.
You can. And lots of girls do. And when they do, they find they've screwed up their relationship with their parents and friends. Then they find that it's difficult to get through school and college exams and life is just not the fun it should be when there's a baby to be looked after. If you don't want a baby, then use a (Kitemarked) condom.
2. I'll take it out before I finish.
THAT DOESN'T WORK EITHER!
While you're doing it, the sperm that fertilises the ovum are often released without you even knowing it. And guys often find they've simply lost the will power to withdraw before they finish. So don't take the risk, use a (Kitemarked) condom.
3. My partner's never been with anyone else before, so I can't catch anything.
HOW DO YOU KNOW THEY'RE TELLING THE TRUTH?
Some people are not responsible and may lie to you about their past, in order to reassure you. The only way to really protect yourself against STI's and HIV is for the man to wear a condom. This will help protect both the man and the woman, not only from HIV, the virus that can lead to AIDS, but also syphilis, gonorrhoea, herpes, chlamydia and other unpleasant or dangerous infections. Only a KITEMARKED condom can help prevent the spread of disease
But what if you've met a special person and you're old enough or in love enough?
Why not wait a little longer? If you decide to have sex, there are many ways to prevent unwanted pregnancy, including the coil, diaphragm and the pill. But these methods will not help you avoid STI's. If you use a condom, you will not only guard against unwanted pregnancy, but will also help to protect yourself from STI's, including genital warts and herpes.
Although the man will wear the condom, it's not just his responsibility. If you're a girl, there's absolutely no reason why you shouldn't carry condoms in your purse - far better that you're prepared than that you take a stupid risk - even if he is the best guy that ever walked the planet! These days it's perfectly respectable and sensible for girls to look after themselves. Don't give in just because a guy says a condom reduces his pleasure - it's not worth the risk! Tell him Sex is only on when he has a condom on!
Always make sure your condoms have this mark on the packet.It's the British Standards Kitemark that guarantees the quality of the condom. So you know it will give you the best possible protection against pregnancy or disease. But do remember, no contraceptive gives absolute protection. Accidents can still happen so think how you'd cope if it happened to you - if your relationship is not strong enough for that, then ask yourself if you're really ready for sex!
So please remember the best advice that anyone can give you about safe sex. If you are going to do it, open the packet, read the instructions carefully and use that condom!
Our packs of condoms all carry the British Standards Kitemark (BS ISO:4074 2002) and our quality system conforms to BS EN/ISO9001. So you can be completely confident of maximum security when you use a Safesex product.